If you're into him and he's sweet, go for it. For all you know, he could just be interested in checking out your awesome collection of first edition books. Literature can be sexy! The two of you are both trying to obviously extend a date: dinner, then a movie, then a coffee shop, then strolling down a quaint street, then browsing the stacks at a bookstore, then drinks. Admit it, neither one of you wants the date to end.
It doesn't have to. Ask him over because he won't say no. When you mention your leaky faucet or wonky DVR, and he offers to fix it, say yes and invite him back to your place. If you two completely forget about the repairs once you're inside, no biggie! You're about to get busy in the car. You have a perfectly comfortable bed in your room, don't you?
The first time with a new fellow is going to be a bit awkward no matter how you spin it so why complicate things further with a seatbelt buckle pressed painfully against your booty? Invite him inside and have fun. Also, if you're about to drop trou in the parking garage, subway, cab, elevator or lobby of your building, I'd recommend doing the same. It should seem obvious but clean up before she comes over. No girl wants to have to step over a pile of dirty clothes, or a stack of empty pizza boxes to get into your bedroom.
If you have a kitchen, make sure it is absolutely spotless and stocked with something you can offer her. Pick your clothes up off the floor, make the bed and for the love of God, make sure it smells good in there. Imagine bringing a girl into your bedroom that has the pungent aroma of sweaty dude embedded into the carpet and walls?
Having something planned is also a great idea. At the very least, you should pick a good movie to watch. If you want to get creative, cook something with her and eat dinner together.
If you do end up hooking up, ask her directly to stay the night. Let her stay the night, and then, if you actually like her, go to breakfast the next day. When you really like a girl, these kinds of late Saturdays can be really fun.
If you can get the place to yourself, then definitely do it. Try this simple "copy paste" text message to get her intrigued, and thinking that she made a mistake. I want to turn things around with her so we can be a LOT more than friends. I'm cool being friend zoned by girls I want to date. Connect with us. I know it could be all over the place, but how many dates on average until you invite your date to your place?
I included a poll. Most of my first dates started in my living room so what can I say? It depends on how much I like them. On average, I'd say between I consider being invited over to a man's house as an invitation for sex. If I were a man I wouldn't invite a woman over until I was sure that she was agreeable and felt ready. For me, it would take longer than 6 dates, so I didn't respond to your poll. Usually I would invite my date over on the third date.
It's not an open invitation for you-know-what. I make sure that my date knows that they can stay the night, but that you-know-what is off the table since it takes me a while to jump into bed with someone. Doesn't mean we can't do other fun things though. Inviting a girl who you're dating over to your place by saying "Would you like to come over to my place? So the way she will interpret this is "Do you want to come over and have sex with me?
It puts her completely in control of the situation and what happens. It shows indecisiveness. Never use questions and don't ask if she wants to "come over" unless you're sure she wants to sleep with you.
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